The Intention Behind Social Media

The debate over whether social media is a positive or negative influence is a hot topic these days. On one side of the spectrum, one might argue that it allows us to connect to (and with) a vast number of people over thousands of miles away from each other, which would not have been possibleContinue reading “The Intention Behind Social Media”

Discomfort is a Vulnerability Issue

Experiencing discomfort is not easy – often times, it makes us feel exposed, raw, scrutinized. This is because, in situations where we are ourselves unsure, we end up feeling like our own misgivings are being criticized by others because they can somehow sense that we are incompetent. The truth is, we don’t put off aContinue reading “Discomfort is a Vulnerability Issue”

The Relationship Between Values and Actions

I think about values a lot these days. This is relatively new for me, as in, really, the last 3 years or so, and correlates directly to my introduction of SMART Recovery. For those who are unfamiliar, SMART Recovery is a substance use recovery group whose goal is abstinence through an understanding of how thoughtsContinue reading “The Relationship Between Values and Actions”

Embracing the Past for a Better Present

A while ago I heard someone say, “Don’t look back, you are not going that way.” Although I can appreciate the message being portrayed here and the positive intent behind it, this statement bothered me. I think the main reason I had an issue with this is that I know now, more than ever, theContinue reading “Embracing the Past for a Better Present”

Forgiveness is for You

Lately, I have been contemplating what it means to forgive. Many of us may have heard the phrase, “Forgiveness is for you, not for the person who caused the pain.” But what does this mean, really? And how would one go about doing that? Some people may think, “Yes, I understand that it’s for me,Continue reading “Forgiveness is for You”

“Showing Up” is Harder Than You May Think

The internet is all a buzz lately of new and different self-help concepts. The current advice is, “Just show up.” “Be present”. This seems fairly straightforward, and physically speaking, it is. You head off to a specified location. You arrive. You acknowledge to others that you are there. Emotional presence, however, is a completely differentContinue reading ““Showing Up” is Harder Than You May Think”

The Dark Side of Over Functioning

I have always had a love-hate relationship with anxiety. It has gotten better in recent years with a lot of support, and one of the things I have learned is both the importance of knowing “me”, as well as retaining a sense of humor in the face of my anxiety. A while back, I startedContinue reading “The Dark Side of Over Functioning”

Individualizing in a World of Belonging

When I was creating the title for this post, I wrote ‘individualizing’ and immediately I wondered: Is this actually a word? As it turns out, it is! But, I don’t know that the meanings of the word are quite what I have in mind, as most of the definitions seem to be about tailoring somethingContinue reading “Individualizing in a World of Belonging”

ADHD: Finding the Order in DIS-Order

Attention Deficit Disorder (ADHD) is an important topic for me. As someone who was diagnosed later in life, this meant living life in a constant fog, being judged or criticized for being “lazy” and “not working up to potential”, and living with the shame that comes with the misunderstanding that is ADHD. Growing up inContinue reading “ADHD: Finding the Order in DIS-Order”